Knowing when to DO and ALLOW?

Simple laws in self mastery - Part 5

For the final part of this series I want to talk to you about is the ART OF ALLOWING. I often see people trying to grow, change and become better, yet it is a fine line between DOING and ALLOWING.

Have you ever tried to MAKE something happen only for it to backfire? Have you ever been in a state of TRYING to create something by DOING lots of different thing but nothing seems to work? Or you know something has to change so you try and FORCE the change? You seek advice, you learn new skills, you take ACTION, and nothing happens .... it all seems to be for nothing.

There have been times where I have wondered “what is it all for?”, “why bother being so courageous when all you do is hit a brick wall?”  How is it some people take small steps and doors open while others do the same thing and the door remains closed?



I have read hundreds of books saying we are creators of our own world, that we live in an abundant world and we can have anything we desire...... well, why is it that at times, things don’t seem to go our way? Why does it all seem so hard?

Then it dawned on me .... what if the universe is actually supporting us and guiding us but we don’t see it? What if it is our own THINKING and TRYING that is getting in the way? What if the road blocks are actually a sign from the universe that we are not meant to be on that road and there is actually a better road for us? It was Heller Keller who said  “when one door of happiness closes we spend so long looking at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” What if the universe is actually opening doors for us but we are not seeing them?

I have always been a very driven person, goal focussed and task focussed. Tell me what to do and I will do it. When I decide I want something I get it – simple. However the more I connect to my true potential and my highest potential, the more I realise that perhaps it is me that is getting in my own way. What if I am actually limiting myself by taking unnecessary action? What if all my thinking is actually stopping me from feeling my way through? What if I don’t have to work that hard? And what if I can work WITH the universe instead of TRYING to fight it, plan it, tackle it, overcome it and beat it? What if life could actually be fun, effortless and enjoyable? Isn’t that what we really want? To feel good, enjoy life and love what we do?

The point here is that life is not linear, it has many turns with ups and down. Some people choose to sit on their hands and talk about what they want and do nothing, while other people make plans, take action, expect results and feel frustrated when they don’t come quick enough. Either way it is essential to know what tool to use for what situation. Eg, imagine using and hammer to paint a wall or a hair dryer to build a bookshelf? Not very useful. The point here is that there is a time for DOING and a time for ALLOWING. Sometimes we get so caught up in DOING something that we forget to actually ALLOW the universe to catch up and support us as well.

The real key is that reading a lot of books and doing a lot of courses are great because they give you tools to use. However, knowing when to use what tool, in what situation and at what time is a different thing all together. Books give us the knowledge which lives in our head, yet it is the heart that feels the experience. Often we get so set on THINKING our way out of something instead of FEELING our way into something that we miss the opportunity before us. The opportunity of ALLOWING the universe to support us in our earthly learning’s, to allow the energies of our own vibration to bring TO us what we need at this time whether we think we need it or not, and to ALLOW our own spirit the time and space to grow in perfect harmony with our surroundings. THIS MY FRIENDS IS THE ART OF ALLOWING AND THE FINAL STEP IN SELF MASTERY.

To complete this series it is important that you go back to the beginning and re-read each of the steps we have discussed in this 5 part series. Repeat all of them as you learn to LIVE each of the tools again. Self Mastery is not about how well you can read this blog or any other books, but how much you can LIVE the EXPERIENCES of LIFE in your OWN BLISS.

The test;


Can you accept you as you are right now?
Can you love you for who you are right now?
Do you believe in yourself as perfect right now?
Can you manage your thoughts and feel your heart?
Will you allow yourself to grow and create in ways you never thought possible?

If you answered yes to all of these questions then you are LIVING the LAWS of self mastery. This does not mean your life is perfect and you are flawless, it means you are in a state of self acceptance.
If you answered no, to any of these questions then be patient with yourself as you continue to grow. The key here is to ALLOW yourself the time and space to BE however it is you feel you need to be at this time. There are no right answers. No one person is more spiritual than the other. We all have a spirit and we are all connecting & expressing it in the best way we know how.

The purpose of this series has been to help you understand your thoughts, manage your emotions, take mindful action and connect to your spirit. It is through understanding ourselves we learn to accept ourselves. Because through acceptance we get closer to our spirit which in essence is the point of SELF MASTERY..... to love you as you in your own CREATIVE BRILLIANCE.

I hope you hold your learning’s dear to your heart as I do mine.

I look forward to hearing your stories and answering your questions.

With much love and blessings

Daniela Falecki