What about when it feels like it all goes wrong ..... Then what?

THE SIMPLE LAWS OF SELF MASTERY - Part 3

A five part series to opening our heart, our minds and our spirit 

Self Mastery is easy when life is great, but what about when it all goes wrong ..... Then what?
Some people may think that because you work in the field of Personal Development that your life is simple & ‘cruisie’. Well I can assure you that my life and that of many other spiritual teachers or coaches I know is far from that.

For those of you who have read “My Story”, you will know I have come a very long way to be where I am now. In this process I have certainly had my share of tears, tantrums and frustration. You need only speak to my family or friends and they will be all too willing to tell you my flaws. What very few people do know is that I have had many days where I have been in absolute despair wondering what the point of it all is, asking myself what am I doing and does anyone even care. There have been many times where I have seriously thought about giving up, getting a ‘normal’ job and fitting in like everyone else. In my times of despair I wallow in my own self pity, complain how hard-done-by I am to a few close friends and then continue about my day pretending I am ok. Perhaps a few hours or even a few days later I am feeling great again. I am clear in my thought, I am ready to share and I feel inspired to carry on. Sometimes it can feel like life really is a roller-coaster.

It doesn’t matter where you have come from, it only matters where you are heading

THE SIMPLE LAWS OF SELF MASTERY (Part 2)

A five part series to opening our heart, our minds and our spirit 

“It doesn't matter where you have come from, it only matters where you are heading.” Oprah

In part one of The Simple Laws of Self Mastery, we explored the concept of BEING STILL and LISTENING TO OUR BODY with;
• The Law Of Noticing The Little Things
• The Law Of Living Life To Its Fullest
• The Law of Trusting Yourself
• The Law of Positive Self Talk

How did you go? Keeping a journal of your experiences, reflections and insights is a great way to measure just how far you have come. Keep in mind, the journey of Self Mastery is just that, a journey – there is no end just an adventure full of experiences.  I often find it interesting that it seems to only be in times of stress and turmoil that we seek solace in our journal and when things are well, we think we don’t need to reflect on what is going right. I certainly have my share of down days, uncertainty and asking for guidance, however reflecting on my happy days is just as important as reflecting on my down days.

In this section we look at the concept of GROWTH and MOVING FORWARD. As a living being we are constantly growing and changing on a cellular level every second. In fact every living thing is constantly growing and changing. It is a truth that the only constant is change. With this being said, it is also true that the path of Self Mastery involves change and growth. The next few tools presented here are designed to help you direct your change, embrace your growth and support your learning journey.

Lets continue......

1. Law of Filling Your Own Cup

I don’t know about you, but the older I get, the faster time seems to fly. Life seems to happen at a frantic pace.... with more demands, more learning and more responsibility.  Trying to juggle work, personal life, family, and social expectations can be exhausting. From my experience, this running around often comes at the expense of our inner journey. As life gets busier we tend to take less time for ourselves as we set about achieving our to-do lists. The irony is, if we took a few minutes a day to restore our own energies than we would have more energy to run our day. Imagine for a moment a glass of water that is full. Imagine you wake up in the morning and you are this full cup of water. You begin your day with getting ready, travelling to work, liaising with people throughout the day, taking phone calls, sending emails etc, Then you go home to family or catch up with friends. As you go about your day, you give a little bit of yourself to everyone– clients, family, friends, etc. If you get home feeling exhausted it’s because you have an empty cup. While it is lovely to give so much to others (some more than others), it is important to give to yourself as well.

Are You Your Own Best Friend? Do You Trust You?

THE SIMPLE LAWS OF SELF MASTERY (Part 1)

A five part series to opening our heart, our minds and our spirit

Are you the sort of person who is looking for answers to life’s big questions? Wanting to know how you can be happier, more successful, or just at peace? From my experience most of us are. The irony with this, is that more often than not, we find ourselves running in circles chasing, when we would be better served to stop and notice what already exists. I know this because I’ve been on that journey for some time and I wanted to share with you some simple tools I used to begin my journey many years ago. In the words from Sarah Ban Breathnach’s book “Simple Abundance”....
“The simpler we make our lives, the more abundant they become”.

One of the keys to self mastery is to practice simple abundance every day. Through doing so, you will come to realise that simple abundance does not require you to take time out or your day, but instead adds time to your day. As you learn to live with greater awareness, you will come to see that you do not need to add anything else to your to-do list but simple be present in the moments of doing what it is you already do – the difference is living consciously.... but what does this even mean?

The Most Essential Spiritual Practice - Honesty by Matt Kahn

One of the most commonly overlooked spiritual practices is daring to be completely honest with everyone you encounter. Some may say others cannot handle their honesty, but true honesty is not a strategy or a weapon of any kind. It is the willingness to be open and absolutely transparent in sharing how any moment feels in your heart. It has nothing to do with confrontation, accusation, or any form of blame. True honesty is the willingness to stand completely exposed, allowing the world to do what it may, and say what it will, only so you may know who you are - beyond all ideas.
 
Feelings such as fear, shame, guilt, doubt, denial, envy, anger, and resentment arise whenever we have